Necessary Endings it the title of a book written by Dr. Henry Cloud.
I read this book several months ago and wanted to share my insights.
Dr. Cloud explains how failing to make necessary endings in work and relationships become harmful to other aspects of your life. As Cloud states, "Today may be the enemy of your tomorrow. In your business and personal life, the tomorrow you desire may not come to pass if you don't end some things you are doing today."
While the book is geared toward business leaders, the lessons are applicable to other spheres of life. Personally, I love when books crossover like Necessary Endings does. In life, we must be able to identify the strategies, projects, activities, and relationships that are worth nurturing and those that are not. We must also overcome our resistance to change.
For me, the biggest takeaway is the idea of pruning a rose bush. Rose buds must receive a sufficient amount of resources to bloom. If a rose bush is never pruned, the buds fail to receive those resources and die off. Pruning is a necessary activity to ensure resources are distributed to the things (or buds) that really matter in life. We must stop wasting resources. Know what standard you are pruning towards and grab those shears.
Do you ever feel bogged down? Over committed? Think about your life for a moment. What activities can be pruned? What relationships cause you more pain than enjoyment? Don't be attached to the end result.
“Getting to the next level always requires ending something, leaving it behind, and moving on. Growth demands that we move on. Without the ability to end things, people stay stuck, never becoming who they are meant to be, never accomplishing all that their talents and abilities should afford them.”
If you're looking for a thought-provoking read, give Necessary Endings a try.